Thankful list 2017 On My Migraine Life

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Thank you to those who showed gratitude in November on My Migraine Life.  I am so thankful to have a community of supporters and those I can support throughout the year.  We may suffer a lot but we appreciate the things in life that make us better.

Happy Thanksgiving to you all!  May it be filled with health, gratitude, and many blessings!

Here are some comments you made:

  1. “Thankful for friends, family, a safe place to live and ability to pay my bills.
  2. For this group.
  3. Thankful for modern medicine
  4. Laughter
  5. I live for the pain-free moments of laughter with family and friends!!
  6. When pain level is low enough to be functional
  7. I am thankful that I am able to still keep a job that I love and be a good mommy to my kids
  8. Thankful for my family, my jobs, and my animals!
  9. I am so thankful for my amazing husband who allows me to tag out when I need to lay down and take care of myself. And for his willingness to work past exhaustion to take care of me and our family when I cannot “pull my weight” during times of pain.
  10. I’m thankful for my amazing and supportive husband. I’m also thankful for the awesome support system I have at work! Without my husband and my work family my life would be awful.
  11. I’m thankful for my amazing husband and children who support me every single day and for my beautiful family of migraine warriors!
  12. I am thankful for your blog! I do not like having “this thing” in common with anyone….but am thankful that you can put into words what I often can’t…or won’t.
  13. I am thankful to live in a city of doctors and options.
  14. I am thankful for a long list of relatives that share in our unfortunate disease, but not all at such a high level.
  15. I am thankful for my husband, who from day one has understood me, and what the future holds with my health, and has never flinched, never questioned, never judged.
  16. I am thankful for my children, good lord are they a blessing, God’s greatest gift to me by far.
  17. I am thankful for my energetic children, who give me a reason to muddle through my painful fog, even though sometimes I’d rather hide in bed.
  18. I want to thank My Migraine Life for your post on being a mom with a migraine.  You are right it takes a village to raise a kid.  That’s why God gave us the ability to ask for help.   But reading that other moms felt like I did was wonderful.  So thank you and I pray that your message touches other people like it did me.
  19. I feel blessed in many ways and could write a very long list, but the big one I will share is that I am thankful my migraines and headaches are not as frequent as so many others who have to deal with them so regularly.  Because I know how painful and debilitating from life they are, I am amazed at the strength that you and so many others have in not only “getting through the day” but kicking ass doing it.
  20. I woke up today, I’m thankful for that.
  21. I’m thankful to be finding community here, too. I’ve struggled with migraines for years, tried a variety of meds and elimination diets without very good results. It’s so helpful to find understanding, optimistic peers! I’m looking into a headache hat and a new pair of glasses this month, thanks to you!
  22. I am thankful for so many things I can’t name them all, so I am very thankful & although I may not have the best of everything I am blessed
  23. Thank you for this post.
  24. I am thankful for my wonderful husband who puts up with a house that’s not always clean, listens to me when I’m frustrated with doctors or treatments that don’t work, and doesn’t care that I don’t cook (lol).
  25. I’m thankful for my two grown children and 6 beautiful grandchildren.
  26. I’m thankful that I have two best buddy dogs that snuggle when I need it and keep me entertained when I’m stuck in my house for days on end.
  27. I’m thankful I woke up today even though the moment I woke up my headache knocked on my brain.
  28. I’m thankful for communities like this one that is a place of kindness and support.
  29. I’m thankful for today despite the challenges.
  30. I’m thankful for people like you that make me feel less alone in this struggle with chronic headaches.
  31. Like others have already said – I’m thankful for finding your blog, and this post especially.
  32. Love reading this blog and hearing how inspiring you are. “

Thank you to all who chose to take time out of your day to give thanks and share with My Migraine Life community.  I am inspired by all your kind words and strive to make this blog the community, support system, and positive place it is.  Migraines are painful, being a mom is overwhelming and life is chaotic.  May we all find strength and take each day at a time hopefully towards health and happiness!

Happy Thanksgiving, my friends!!!

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Why I’m thankful, grateful and blessed the day after a Migraine

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This has been a tough weekend for me.  Friday I spend all day in bed and rode out a level 8+ pain level for over 5 hours as just part of my day fighting Migraine.  It was one of those day……

Along with all the people I listed in my Thankful post, yesterday I was simply thankful that I could leave my room.  Not many people understand the isolation of being chronically sick and the literal battle that is done within one’s self.

Yesterday I felt like a super hero for just being able to leave my room.  Small victory for most but for those of us who understand…..a reason to be THANKFUL!

Please continue to add to my list on how your are thankful, grateful and blessed.  Just setting the intention of finding something positive in each day may change your outlook altogether.   Comment here on the blog, on facebook, twitter or Instagram.  You don’t need to have migraine to comment.  Everyone should find gratitude in their day!

Count Other’s Blessings as Your Own

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Friday Feelings

Yesterday was a hard day for me.  It was one of those days where I had a bunch of things on my calendar and they all turned out a little worse than I had expected.  I had 2 doctors appointments, one of them leaving me in tears.  I had a conference about my child that left me more worried than usual (and let’s be honest, all I do is worry about them).  I wanted to treat myself to a smoothie after one of my doctors appointments and even that didn’t work out.  It seemed like an “Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good Very Bad Day.”

Then I got a text from a dear friend that my prayers had been answered.  I have had her on my prayer list for many months and her news once again brought tears to my eyes (in the best way!).  It was such a reminder to stop feeling bad for myself.  I say it to my children often and the text reminded me the same….you are not the only one who needs help!

While one of my appointments left me incredibly down about myself and the future of my health, I was lifted with news that my lovely friend was given the health and strength I needed.   My pain can be so consuming that some days it’s hard to see through the dark clouds.  My deserving friend broke through those clouds to rain sunshine on so many of us with her text.

So here’s my Friday Feelings and vibes for the weekend…….

Count other’s blessings as your own. 

Knowing my loved ones are surviving and thriving is a blessing upon myself.  It’s easy to feel bad for myself but allowing myself to feel joy in others blessings is a gift.  It allowed me to step away from myself and towards the greater good.  It doesn’t make my big issues disappear but it sure does make a smoothie seem silly.

 

Disney World. The bad

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Every good side has a bad side. I was happily surprised that I saw little bad while I visited Disney World.  The bad thing that I did see was ungrateful people.

My experience with meditation didn’t go well but something I find easy and beneficial to do every day is to show gratitude.  It comes easily being I have a disease that keeps me in a cold dark room and even the littlest bit of relief allows me to be grateful.

I also was a special education teacher for children with severe needs.   I can tell you that when you’ve worked with a child that is severely Autistic or is multiply handicapped you see the world in a different way.

So here’s the bad about Disney World….ungrateful adults.  I have always been able to work with difficult children because of the reminder that they don’t know any better.  I don’t give adults that benefit of the doubt.

As I was standing waiting for my family after a bathroom break (I told you we were hydrating!) I saw a most ungrateful man. He literally stopped in front of me and screamed at his daughter (or could have been his granddaughter, I couldn’t tell) about her band aid falling off her hand.

First of all, band aids fall off a moving hand.  Secondly, shame on him for yelling and embarrassing his daughter about such an insignificant thing.  As she hung her head I could feel the anger rise in me.

I texted my best friend and told her I considered tripping the man (hopefully scrapping his hand) and handing his daughter an extra band aid to put in her pocket.  I don’t go anywhere without band aids.  Kids fall and when they fall they need a band aid.  Even when there isn’t blood, sometimes a band aid just makes them feel better.

You know what doesn’t make them feel better, getting yelled at in a group of people.  How ungrateful!  He was worried about this tiny detail of his day and I am sitting there thinking of the Make a Wish family that had just walked by me.  I bet that family wasn’t worried about a band aid.  I bet their worries were real and powerful and that they would give anything to have their biggest problem be a band aid.  That family was smiling and laughing and  not worrying about such a small thing because they know BIG problems.  I wish that family could talk to that man and tell him about real anger.  Not anger at their child but anger at what they were suffering from.

Another time I saw the bad side of Disney was when we were on a ride. At one point the ride stopped and they made a statement about the ride stopping and that it would start again in a moment.  I heard a woman behind me groan and start loudly complaining about how she couldn’t believe it was ruining her ride.

It’s a funny thing about perspective.  My first thought wasn’t to complain it was to hope.  I sat there hoping that the boy I saw in a wheel chair with a feeding tube was being carefully wheeled onto the ride.  While this woman was complaining I was hoping that this sweet child would be able to experience the beauty and wonder of the ride that I was getting to enjoy.   While this woman was complaining with her working legs and loud mouth I would be interested to hear what that dad I saw pushing him would think.  I’m glad he couldn’t hear her and hope they got to enjoy!

Are these people bad people, of course not. I only heard and saw a small moment of their day.  No one is perfect and I ‘m sure they were dealing with their own issues.  Everyone has problems and everyone expresses them differently.  But from my perspective the bad thing about Disney is the ungrateful people.

I can’t go anywhere without negative people surrounding me and some days it bothers me more than others.  On a day that I felt OK and was literally looking to the sky being grateful for everything this world had provided me.  Then, I heard such nonsense of “band aid gate” and “let’s pause for a moment and complain.”

Let’s all show gratitude!

Part 3 of Disney World is coming.  You know it had to come…..the MIGRAINE!  This one has a great lesson.

Thankfuls to remember and add to


Thank you to everyone who participated in sharing your thankfuls during the month of November.  Here are a few that I hope to look back on during the year to be remind of how much there is to be grateful for!  Please feel free to comment and add on to our list.

“I want to thank you for opening up about your journey.  To find you and to know you can function as a mother, human being and to love life even after 25 years has been so encouraging.  I have not found this before.  But when I have read your blog I feel there is hope as a mother, a nurse and wife.  Thank you in many ways!”

“I’m so happy you made this post!  I think you have the most amazing positive attitude by always seeking out the good things in life despite the pain!  I am exceedingly thankful for the love of my son and two little bunnies who cuddle with me when I need to be touched.  I am thankful that I am able to live near the ocean and travel there to feel the healing power of nature when I need it most.  And I’m thankful for the empowering influence of woman like you on the internet!”

“I am thankful I found your blog!  I think you may be my migraine twin.  As I read your posts, it is like I wrote them.  I am a year older than you but have not had a baby yet, mostly because I am terrified of migraines during pregnancy.  It is encouraging to hear your stories.  Thanks for posting!”

“Thank you for sharing this!   I can relate 100%.   I am thankful for my pain and who I have become because of it.”

“I opened up two gifts this morning, my eyes.  I’m grateful for that.”

“I’m thankful to be alive.  A dear friend is in her final days….each moment spent with her is a reminder of how precious life is, even when living with pain.”

“I am thankful I have great friends that are here to celebrate with me even though we only see each other a few times a year.”

“I am thankful for a full day here and there without a migraine.  I cherish those and makes me more grateful for a pain free day.”

“The roof over my head.  My family and friends that I’m able to advocate for myself and others.”

“I am thankful that I still have my mom alive at 91.  And I am very thankful for my grandchildren.”

“I am thankful for a peaceful room and my medication when I have migraines”

“Bless you for your kind caring heart!”

I am thankful for:

“Loving partner, family friends, warm bed, and migraine awareness spread.”

“My fiancé, my family, good doctors (there are so few).”

“Food!”

“Your blog posts that make me cry”

“Waking up and eating”

“Food, husband, kids, best friend.”

 

“Sow gratitude. Reap. Joy”

What are you thankful 

for?

 

 

 

I am Thankful Despite Migraine

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Happy November and welcome to the month of gratitude

My chronic illness has made me a thankful person in general.  I’m thankful when I’m not in my dark quiet room.  It doesn’t mean that I’m not in pain, but if I’m good enough to be out of bed, I’m thankful.

I’m thankful for many, many, people who love me for just who I am.  I have had to weed out the people who don’t understand but isn’t that life and maturity?  I’m at an age now where my confidence is at its highest.  I know who I am and have surrounded myself with people who truly deserve my time.  I can be knocked down and dragged out by my migraines at any moment so I don’t waste my time with people who don’t make me happier or feel better.

I’m thankful for cuddling with my husband and eating dessert while we watch our favorite TV show.  It’s the small things in life that count and I’m so thankful that I get to spend my life with him.  Waking up to his face allows me to put one foot in front of the other during my worst days and if I can’t walk, he’ll carry me.

I’m thankful for my kids more than words can explain.  I’m thankful for my body that carried those babies and fed them.  I had never been thankful for my body before my two children. Not many girls are in love with themselves due to way too many unrealistic expectations.  With that added to being chronically ill, I never gave myself credit for what it can do.  It’s easy to focus on how much my body restricts me but  I’m now grateful that my body gave me children that motivate me every day.

I’m grateful for my third child, who came to me first, my amazing dog.  She’s so much more than a dog, she gives me love that a human can’t and is one of my strongest therapies. (My dog my nurse my love)

As always I am thankful for my family.  My parents, my in laws, my sister and beyond are my rocks.  You don’t get to pick your family, but if I had the choice, I’d choose them.

The people that I have chosen and am so thankful for are my friends.  They are people who could have walked away from our friendships because of my illness.  Most of my best friends have seen me in a lot of pain, throw up, packed me in ice and have had me cancel plans due to my migraines.  But they love me, dry heaves and all.   I’m thankful to have the most loving, supportive, funny, intelligent and amazing women as my friends. They are great examples to my children on what true friendship means.

Up until last year I had been a stay at home mom and it was the most challenging and incredible experience.  I now have the opportunity to be a full time mom and part time teacher.  I am so thankful for the opportunity to join the work force again but mostly how I was received.  My boss and coworkers instantly became friends and confidants in life.  They are aware of my Migraines and not only are judgement free but are supportive.  They either have Migraines themselves, have a spouse who suffers or see Migraines as more than a headache and how it alters my life.  It is an accepting group and one that wants the best for each other.  My students and their family’s are people I go home each night feeling grateful that I get to be a part of their lives.  I love teaching and being able to go back while keeping my migraines in check during school hours has been a blessing. I wasn’t sure if I’d ever be able to go back to teaching and it fills a void I had while being at home.

I’m grateful for the Migraine community and MyMigraineLife.  My life and confidence, once again, changed when I began my blog.  Fellow sufferers are so powerful in their words and encouragement and I am confident that it has saved and improved lives.  We have laughed and cried together while sharing stories, advocating for foundations and making steps towards greater health.

My list of thankfuls and gratefuls can go on forever.  I am so blessed!  I guess I can complain about migraines, and believe me I do, but being thankful is way more fun and productive.  Migraines are depressing and many people get sucked into the pain hole that seems too deep to come out of.  Remembering my blessings keeps me mentally battling with pain, nausea, aura, weakness, fatigue etc. in a more positive way. The mental battle is incredibly difficult and I’m so thankful I have so much to be thankful for and motivated to fight for.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and commenting on my blog and thoughts.  I’m thankful for you!!!  Without your feedback there would be many days that I would not be able to continue my blog.  It is difficult and uses spoons I may not have.  Your comments, likes and shares motivate me because I know I’m helping you or someone who may stumble across this page.

Please add to my Thankful list.  I will compile the answers and post the list for Thanksgiving. Come back everyday and add something you are thankful.  Showing gratitude, even for the smallest things, gives strength.

What are you Thankful for?

Being kind, grateful, paying it forward and thanking someone

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Years ago I was on vacation.  As I was washing my hands in the bathroom a woman dried her hands and pumped the paper towel holder a few extra times for me to grab.   As a bit of a germ phob, I obviously appreciated her kindness and when I said thank you, she simple replied….”pay it forward.”  Since then I try to do random acts of kindness as much as I can to constantly pay it forward.  Small things count.

Last week I pushed 2 abandoned shopping carts out of the handicapped parking spot to ensure someone who needed the spot could use it.

This week I cleared the table while we were out to dinner.  I have 2 messy kids and all our waitress needed to do was pick up the stacked plates with all the garbage on it and take it away.  Is it her job to clear our table?  Yes.  Could I make it easier for her, yes, so we did.

While being a good Samaritan, I have many times gotten angry at the lack of acknowledgment for my good deeds.  Am I doing them to get credit, no.  But when I let you in my lane by waving you in, a simple hand up in the rear view mirror would be nice.

It seriously shocks me at how rude and inconsiderate people can be.  While I’m  carrying my son and holding my daughter’s hand and somehow holding the door for the person behind me with my spare hip and the person walks in without a thank you, I’m stunned.  The ironic thing is, the toddler I’m holding has better manners than the adult who walked by us.

I run into too few good Samaritans and way too many people preoccupied with themselves or their phones.  So today I encourage you to pay it forward, do a good deed and if that’s not possible, at least try to say thank you for those trying to do so.

In a world and country so divided these days, I think everyone should just be nice.  Such a juvenile concept, I know.  But just be nice.  I think a lot of people have hate in their hearts and sadness on the mind.  These things add up to behaviors that only continue the cycle upon others.  So let’s focus on being nice to ourselves and others.  Kindness goes a long way.

What have you done to spread kindness?