How do you feel about Participation Trophies?

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Growing up, I was involved in a lot of athletics and competitive events.  I have a box full of trophies, medals and certificates showing my success.  As my children begin their own adventures into the sports world, their generation’s parents have created a push for participation trophies.   While receiving a medal for my participation and fundraising efforts for Miles for Migraine, I took a second to reflect.

How do I feel about participation trophies?

When I received my medal, I felt good.  I felt happy, proud, and I did something for a good cause and myself.  The trophy made me feel like a success.  My children also received participation medals for their Tball and softball efforts this summer.  In our cases, we were not playing winning or losing games.  We participated and were rewarded for our efforts.

I think participation should be recognized at a noncompetitive level.  I see the recognition for both my children and myself this summer as motivation.  The medals we received were mementos of the hard work and dedication to the race and season.  My children are young and beginning to find what interests them.  Children need to be motivated.  My son’s league was not keeping score, there were about 20 four-year olds playing in the dirt more than playing the game.  They didn’t even understand the concept of score.  A game without a score is a game of instruction  not winners or losers.   

The only thing I can say about the medals is that they look at them and want to play next year.  They have a physical reminder of their good memories and the fun they had throughout the year.  If the medals were a pat on the back to say good season, I think a snack would have done the same.  My son looked forward to the snacks at the end of the game as much as the game.  I think a pizza party and snacks could have been just as an effective participation trophy.

Once they get into the winning and losing age of sports, I think medals should go to the winners.  Will they always win and be rewarded?  No, that’s life.  They will learn how to overcome setbacks, see progress, learn how to have sportsmanship and how to be a team.  Loosing is part of life and participating does not mean a reward is given.  If you show up at work but don’t get the job done, are you still paid?  Probably not for long.  Sports teach lessons of winning, loosing and working hard to be the winner and best.   Endless lessons can be learned without rewarding those who just showed up.

I think rewarding those who show up when it’s noncompetitive is ok.  We all felt good and were reminded of our dedication.  I felt proud of what I did and want my children to feel the same.  Overall, I think we all need to be reminded to keep trying and getting better.  I think a snack can be swapped for a medal and that the trophies can be saved for the winners once they are to that point.  If they don’t have a box full of trophies at the end of their lives, does that mean they are losers?  No!  In fact, they may learn more from losing than winning.  It’s all about the process not the gift.  I will take lots of pictures to save those moments as reminders of the ups and downs.  They won’t need a trophy to remind them they showed up.

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Participation trophies have turned into a way of saying the game doesn’t matter.  As long as you got dressed and showed up that day you are a winner.  The real world doesn’t reward you for showing up.  The real-world needs people to show up then do something!  It’s the something that counts.  They don’t need to just show up for school, they need to do something!  They need to work hard and get better to be a winner in life.  It will hurt to learn that sometimes they just aren’t good enough, smart enough, fast enough.  As an overprotective mom, I don’t look forward to those moments.  I will sit and cry with them when they lose but I won’t be giving them a trophy.  I’ll give them a hug, a sports tap and get them back out there.  It’s not the things in life that motivate, it’s the experiences.

When you fall off your bike, get back on and ride.  Your trophy will be knowing how to ride the rest of your life.

Now let’s go have a snack!

 

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Miles for Migraine virtual walk and race dates 2017

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In June, I did a virtual challenge to raise money for Miles for Migraine.  “Miles for Migraine is a registered 501(c)(3) Non-Profit with the mission of improving the lives of migraine patients and their families, raising public awareness about headache disorders, and helping find a cure for migraine. Miles for Migraine produces fun walk/run events, typically 2 mile walk and 5k and 10k race to raise money for migraine research. We also host youth camps for kids and teens impacted by migraine or other headache disorders.”

I made the goal of raising $300 for the 3 years I’ve been blogging and I’m happy to announce we met that goal and exceeded it!  Thank you to those who donated!  Migraine is terribly underfunded and every dollar goes a long way towards fellowship programs for training new doctors as well as research. THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

For those of you that missed the fundraiser and would like participate yourself, I have a few more opportunities for you.

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Philadelphia                October 7, 2017

Washington, DC             October 15, 2017

Virtual Race                       Anytime!

 

Keep moving!  I have more race dates coming for Runnin’ for Research in which I participated last year.  I hope you are motivated to take one step at a time and each day get a bit stronger.  As a chronic migraineur, I feel like one day I step forward, the next I’m knocked back down .  The most important thing is that I take that step forward again…..

Make a difference for Migraine

Today is the official Chronic Migraine Awareness Day.  All month I have been supporting Migraine and Headache Awareness to advocate.  Even though today’s the day and June’s the month, the reality is it’s an everyday, every month type of suffering.  Please continue to read, share, and pass along My Migraine Life’s information and stories to raise awareness all year long.

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This picture is a perfect example of how I fight each day.  I was writing in my office wearing my migraine relief and photophobia glasses.  Why do I wear indoor glasses while the lights are off?  Sky lights!  I love the sun but it doesn’t always love me so I protect my eyes with Axon Optics.  I am an affiliate of Axon Optics which means if you buy them I will receive compensation for my referral.

Axon Optics has generously  offered 15%off your purchase today and tomorrow.

Use code mymigrainelife and purchase here

Another bit of support that I’m wearing is my “Migraine warrior, it’s more than a headache” tank.  It is in the official Migraine color, purple, and is sold by a fellow Migraine blogger Migraine Warrior

Not pictured are my walking shoes.  Please remember to donate to Miles for Migraine.  Skip the Starbucks today and give $10.  It will make a bigger difference in this world…

Do something that makes a difference for all of us who suffer today.  You may not suffer, but someone you know does.  We all need your help!

Donate, buy and wear something that makes a change.

You can’t ask for change without being a part of it.

Mile for Migraine charity walk/run 2017

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This year, I started a virtual team for Miles for Migraine. “Miles for Migraine is a registered 501(c)(3) Non-Profit with the mission of improving the lives of migraine patients and their families, raising public awareness about headache disorders, and helping find a cure for migraine. Miles for Migraine produces fun run events, typically 5k and 10k races to raise money for migraine research, and also hosts youth camps for kids and teens impacted by migraine or other headache disorders.”

I love this race because we all can participate virtually.  My goal is to raise $300 in honor of my blog being 3 years old this summer!

Please go to my pledge page and make a donation if you are able.  All or part of your donation may be tax deductible as a charitable contribution.

The fundraiser will go through the month of June in honor of Migraine Awareness Month.  If you’d like to see me reach a goal, please specify and I will do my best to honor it.  If you’d like to make a miles goal, please take a picture of yourself making those miles for My Migraine Life and I will happily post it and give encouragement as always.

The great part is, no race day, no big commitment, just motivation.  If you don’t have the money to donate, please participate by walking a mile or moving one day and tag me in your success.

I want to thank any of you in advance for your donation and participation.  The smallest amount makes the biggest difference. THANK YOU!

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*Once you’ve donated and/or made a commitment to walk a mile, don’t forget you have a chance for something FREE!!!!  Enter my giveaway for a Migraine Awareness Band that ends 6/10/2017  Enter NOW!!!